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Father’s Day for Those with Dementia

For those who have fathers or grandfathers with dementia, Father’s Day may be a hard day. When shared memories disappear, we need to find creative ways to celebrate our relationships. Here are a few ideas drawn from a song sung by Kenny Chesney, entitled “While He Still Knows Who I Am.”

Between the Pond and the Woods

If you’ve never heard this song, it’s a good place to start when you’re struggling with the emotional load of Father’s Day.

While He still Knows Who I Am                                                                        (Written by Dave Berg, Tom Douglas, and Georgia Middleman)

Mama says he can’t remember
Daddy thinks that he still can
I’m goin back to see him
While he still knows who I am

This time I’m gonna hug him instead of just shakin hands
Gonna tell him that I love him
While he still knows who I am

I only knew him as my father
I’m gonna get to know the man
I’m goin back to see him
While he still knows who I am

This time I’m gonna kiss him, instead of just shakin hands
Gonna tell him that I love him
While he still knows who I am

I know I can’t turn back time
We’ll slow it down while we can
I’m goin home to see him
While he still knows who I am
While he still knows who I am

If you like the message of the song, check out the Youtube video of Kenny Chesney singing it. The short film illustrates what most of us already know. It’s not the grand gestures that matter most. It’s warm hugs and cold ice cream, laughter and tears. May you enjoy a Father’s Day memory or moment of peace today. If you’re really feeling down, check out another favorite Kenny Chesney song, “I’m Alive”, because no matter how bad things may seem, it’s still a privilege to be here.